{"id":8117,"date":"2023-12-15T12:22:40","date_gmt":"2023-12-15T11:22:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/?p=8117"},"modified":"2023-12-15T12:22:40","modified_gmt":"2023-12-15T11:22:40","slug":"alba-castellvi-aqui-es-tracta-de-no-permetre-que-els-fills-prenguin-totes-les-decisions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/eap\/alba-castellvi-aqui-es-tracta-de-no-permetre-que-els-fills-prenguin-totes-les-decisions\/","title":{"rendered":"Alba Castellv\u00ed: \u201cAqu\u00ed es tracta de no permetre que els fills prenguin totes les decisions\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-content\/uploads\/usu773\/2023\/12\/qr-code-6-1.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone  wp-image-8118\" src=\"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-content\/uploads\/usu773\/2023\/12\/qr-code-6-1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"361\" height=\"241\" srcset=\"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-content\/uploads\/usu773\/2023\/12\/qr-code-6-1.png 1004w, https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-content\/uploads\/usu773\/2023\/12\/qr-code-6-1-300x200.png 300w, https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-content\/uploads\/usu773\/2023\/12\/qr-code-6-1-768x513.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 361px) 100vw, 361px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<div class=\"max-w-4xl\">\n<p>Entrevista a l&#8217;educadora i mediadora, que publica \u2018Els h\u00e0bits que els faran feli\u00e7os\u2019, manual pr\u00e0ctic per a educar fills de tres anys a catorze, fills que cada vegada m\u00e9s manen als pares<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"mt-6 relative\">Alba Castellv\u00ed Miquel (1976) \u00e9s soci\u00f2loga, educadora i mediadora especialitzada en fam\u00edlies. Tamb\u00e9 escriu llibres, i el darrer \u00e9s Els h\u00e0bits que els faran feli\u00e7os (Angle Editorial), en qu\u00e8 d\u00f3na consells pr\u00e0ctics als pares per a educar els fills de tres anys a catorze. Castellv\u00ed rep VilaWeb a la casa on viu i treballa, al mig del Pened\u00e8s, on va venir a viure per educar els seus dos fills, ara ja grans, en la llibertat responsable, en la llibertat de la intemp\u00e8rie que predica al llibre. Una casa on fa les sessions per a ajudar els pares a educar, uns pares que sovint viuen massa pendents dels fills, a qui no posen l\u00edmits.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>\n<p><strong>Frase del llibre: quan neix el fill neix el pare.<\/strong><br \/>\n\u2014Quan neix el fill, neix el pare, evidentment. Ni el fill neix ensenyat, ni el pare tampoc. Els pares no saben com relacionar-se amb el seu fill educativament. I aqu\u00ed \u00e9s on n\u2019ha d\u2019aprendre. I ensenyar-ho \u00e9s el que jo intento.<\/p>\n<p>\u2014<strong>Parleu dels errors que normalment heu vist en els pares que us v\u00e9nen a veure. Un \u00e9s la sobreprotecci\u00f3.<\/strong><br \/>\n\u2014Els pares volen que els seus fills siguin feli\u00e7os, i molts pensen que per ser feli\u00e7os han d\u2019estar contents el m\u00e0xim de temps possible. Aix\u00f2 \u00e9s un error, perqu\u00e8 per ser feli\u00e7 de vegades tamb\u00e9 s\u2019ha de ser infeli\u00e7. Molts pares, per tal que els seus fills estiguin permanentment contents, s\u2019esforcen a evitar que tinguin problemes. I quan els seus fills no tenen problemes, passen dues coses: que no posen en joc els recursos que necessitaran per a poder-los resoldre m\u00e9s endavant, quan es presentin. I l\u2019altra, que quan es trobin amb aquests problemes i no tinguin recursos, pot ser que tinguin un xoc emocional, precisament per falta de costum.<\/p>\n<p>\u2014<strong>La gran difer\u00e8ncia entre la manera com ens van educar a nosaltres i la manera com eduquem nosaltres els nostres fills quina seria?<\/strong><br \/>\n\u2014A nosaltres ens donaven m\u00e9s marge per a equivocar-nos i ens corregien m\u00e9s durament quan ens equivoc\u00e0vem. Ens deixaven triar menys. Avui dia es deixa triar molt i es corregeix poc. \u00c9s a dir, en general, som molt permissius i generosos amb les conductes dels fills. Els nostres pares no ho van ser tant amb les nostres.<\/p>\n<p>\u2014<strong>Som una generaci\u00f3 que alguns han quedat tocats pels pares i ara tinc la sensaci\u00f3 que alguns queden tocats pels fills.<\/strong><br \/>\n\u2014Qu\u00e8 vols dir tocats?<\/p>\n<p>\u2014<strong>Traumatitzats, aclaparats, enfonsats, esclavitzats. I ara tinc la sensaci\u00f3 que hi ha pares esclavitzats pels fills. Us trobeu pares esclavitzats pels fills?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Per continuar llegint, clica\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.vilaweb.cat\/noticies\/alba-castellvi-permetre-fills-decisions\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>aqu\u00ed<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Entrevista a l&#8217;educadora i mediadora, que publica \u2018Els h\u00e0bits que els faran feli\u00e7os\u2019, manual pr\u00e0ctic per a educar fills de tres anys a catorze, fills que cada vegada m\u00e9s manen als pares Alba Castellv\u00ed Miquel (1976) \u00e9s soci\u00f2loga, educadora i mediadora especialitzada en fam\u00edlies. 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