{"id":11530,"date":"2025-09-25T09:07:10","date_gmt":"2025-09-25T07:07:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/?p=11530"},"modified":"2025-09-25T09:09:04","modified_gmt":"2025-09-25T07:09:04","slug":"10-estrategies-per-connectar-amb-el-fill-adolescent","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/eap\/10-estrategies-per-connectar-amb-el-fill-adolescent\/","title":{"rendered":"10 estrat\u00e8gies per connectar amb el fill adolescent"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u201cEs passen el dia a l\u2019habitaci\u00f3 i no els interessa gens fer coses amb nosaltres\u201d, lamenta el Pere, pare de dos nois adolescents de 13 i 15 anys. Tant ell com la seva companya, la Marta, s\u2019estan acostumant a aquesta nova etapa. \u201cT\u00e9 tan mala fama l\u2019adolesc\u00e8ncia, que hi arribes una mica espantada, per\u00f2 no n\u2019hi ha per tant\u201d, admet la mare, malgrat recon\u00e8ixer que encara ara s\u2019estan adaptant.<\/p>\n

Hem preguntat a dos experts en adolesc\u00e8ncia, la mestra i psicopedagoga Sonia L\u00f3pez Iglesias, i el\u00a0coach\u00a0<\/em>de joves Carles Ventura, quines pautes haurien de tenir presents les fam\u00edlies amb fills adolescents per connectar amb ells.<\/p>\n

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Compreneu l\u2019etapa<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n

Entendre qu\u00e8 suposa l\u2019adolesc\u00e8ncia \u00e9s clau per no prendre-s\u2019ho com un atac personal. El que els passa \u00e9s fruit dels canvis biol\u00f2gics, psicol\u00f2gics i socials que experimenten i que pot produir-los inseguretat i malestar emocional. Tamb\u00e9 \u00e9s a causa del desenvolupament del cervell,\u00a0que est\u00e0 en transformaci\u00f3<\/a>\u00a0i no pot fer servir les funcions executives com programar, anticipar-se, organitzar-se o una gesti\u00f3 correcta de les emocions.<\/p>\n

Tingueu clar qu\u00e8 voleu per als vostres fills<\/h3>\n

Encara que sempre els veieu com els vostres petits, si voleu que es converteixin en persones adultes heu de tractar-los com a tal, ja no podeu donar ordres. Avanceu cap a la relaci\u00f3 que voldreu tenir quan siguin m\u00e9s grans.<\/p>\n

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Consensueu els l\u00edmits<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n

Quan es consensuen els l\u00edmits, que donen resposta a les necessitats de pares i fills, els adolescents se senten escoltats. Si senten que les seves necessitats estan cobertes ser\u00e0 m\u00e9s f\u00e0cil que els compleixin. Aix\u00f2 implicar\u00e0 una millor conviv\u00e8ncia i que els seus privilegis es mantinguin. L\u2019adolescent no vol estar discutint constantment amb els pares, \u00e9s esgotador per totes dues parts. Establiu conjuntament uns l\u00edmits clars i quines seran les conseq\u00fc\u00e8ncies si se\u2019ls salten.<\/p>\n

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Sigueu flexibles i trieu les batalles<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n

Aneu refent les cl\u00e0usules que hav\u00edeu establert \u2013obligacions, hores d\u2019anar a dormir, gesti\u00f3 de dispositius\u2013. Refeu-les sabent que algun dia fallaran i se saltaran els l\u00edmits. Negocieu, reviseu i parleu, per\u00f2 sent flexibles perqu\u00e8 si sou r\u00edgids hi haur\u00e0 m\u00e9s conflictes. Decidiu quins s\u00f3n els temes importants i manteniu-vos ferms. Amb la resta, respireu. Costa tenir bona connexi\u00f3 quan ens passem el dia dient \u201cno\u201d.<\/p>\n

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Confieu<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n

Quan confieu en ells tenen m\u00e9s autoestima, assumeixen m\u00e9s responsabilitats i aix\u00f2 els ajuda a madurar. Confieu i deixeu-los el seu espai, tot i estar una mica pendent, no els sobreprotegiu. Parleu-los amb calma i delegueu, i tingueu present que algun cop no respondran com voldr\u00edeu.<\/p>\n

La comunicaci\u00f3 ha de ser afectiva i sense judicis<\/h3>\n

Oblideu-vos de les expectatives<\/h3>\n

Interesseu-vos per la seva vida<\/h3>\n

Sigueu un model de serenitat<\/h3>\n

Trobeu temps per compartir amb ells<\/h3>\n

Per continuar llegint l\u2019article, clica el seg\u00fcent\u00a0enlla\u00e7<\/strong><\/a> de Criatures<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cEs passen el dia a l\u2019habitaci\u00f3 i no els interessa gens fer coses amb nosaltres\u201d, lamenta el Pere, pare de dos nois adolescents de 13 i 15 anys. Tant ell com la seva companya, la Marta, s\u2019estan acostumant a aquesta nova etapa. \u201cT\u00e9 tan mala fama l\u2019adolesc\u00e8ncia, que hi arribes una mica espantada, per\u00f2 no […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":11531,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[67],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11530","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-eap"],"post_mailing_queue_ids":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11530","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11530"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11530\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11534,"href":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11530\/revisions\/11534"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11531"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11530"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11530"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11530"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}