{"id":11494,"date":"2025-09-22T15:28:03","date_gmt":"2025-09-22T13:28:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/?p=11494"},"modified":"2025-09-22T15:28:03","modified_gmt":"2025-09-22T13:28:03","slug":"com-podem-detectar-un-amic-toxic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/serveiseducatius.xtec.cat\/selva1\/eap\/com-podem-detectar-un-amic-toxic\/","title":{"rendered":"Com podem detectar un amic t\u00f2xic?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Aquest tipus d’amistat pot repercutir en l’autoestima i en la manera com es construeixen relacions futures.<\/p>\n

Les amistats tenen un paper fonamental en el creixement dels infants i adolescents. Aprenen a relacionar-se, a construir-se la identitat i a sentir-se part d\u2019un grup. Per\u00f2 no totes les relacions s\u00f3n sempre positives. N\u2019hi ha que els poden limitar o generar-los malestar. Tal com apunta la psic\u00f2loga infantojuvenil Margot Fust\u00e9, en aquests casos \u00e9s important saber identificar qu\u00e8 est\u00e0 passant i, sobretot, com acompanyar-los.<\/p>\n

Qu\u00e8 \u00e9s una amistat t\u00f2xica?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Fust\u00e9 explica que aquest terme col\u00b7loquial descriu relacions d\u2019amistat que resulten perjudicials per al benestar emocional i el desenvolupament personal. N\u2019hi ha de diferents tipus: amistats que limiten l\u2019autonomia i l\u2019autenticitat, relacions amb un component de depend\u00e8ncia desequilibrada, per\u00f2 tamb\u00e9 vincles marcats pel control, la cr\u00edtica constant o el xantatge emocional. \u201cS\u00f3n relacions que no afavoreixen el creixement ni la seguretat emocional. Identificar aquestes din\u00e0miques ajuda a entendre millor qu\u00e8 vol dir, realment, que una amistat no \u00e9s sana, i \u00e9s el primer pas per poder acompanyar els nostres fills a establir vincles m\u00e9s positius\u201d, diu Fust\u00e9.<\/p>\n

Com podem percebre que els nostres fills en tenen una?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

\u201cHo podeu fer si veiem que torna a casa trist o irritable, si detectem comentaris negatius envers ell mateix que poden reflectir una autoestima m\u00e9s baixa, si deixa de fer activitats que abans li agradaven, si es mostra molt dependent del que pensi o decideixi l\u2019altre, o si veiem canvis en el seu comportament habitual\u201d, explica la psic\u00f2loga. Segons Fust\u00e9, aquests senyals no sempre s\u00f3n f\u00e0cils d\u2019interpretar i \u00e9s normal que passin desapercebuts. \u201cPer aix\u00f2, conv\u00e9 mantenir una mirada atenta i oberta, confiant que amb di\u00e0leg i proximitat podrem detectar el que necessiten\u201d, assegura.<\/p>\n

Com podem ajudar-los a gestionar la situaci\u00f3?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

\u201cEl primer pas \u00e9s escoltar-los amb calma i sense jutjar, perqu\u00e8 se sentin acompanyats i confi\u00efn en nosaltres. Despr\u00e9s, podem ajudar-los a posar nom al que viuen, donar-los recursos per posar l\u00edmits i animar-los a buscar entorns i relacions que els facin sentir segurs i valorats\u201d, explica. Fust\u00e9 tamb\u00e9 indica que \u00e9s important validar les seves emocions i fer-los veure que no estan sols. A m\u00e9s, des de l\u2019entorn adult, se\u2019ls poden mostrar altres models de relaci\u00f3 m\u00e9s saludables, ja sigui a trav\u00e9s de l\u2019exemple de la fam\u00edlia, del relat d\u2019experi\u00e8ncies o facilitant-los espais on puguin con\u00e8ixer persones amb qui compartir vincles sans i respectuosos. \u201cCal tenir en compte que l\u2019acompanyament pot variar segons l\u2019edat: no \u00e9s el mateix donar suport a un infant, que necessita m\u00e9s guia i pres\u00e8ncia adulta, que a un adolescent, que acostuma a reclamar m\u00e9s autonomia i espais propis. Adaptar-nos a cada etapa \u00e9s clau perqu\u00e8 se sentin entesos i respectats en les seves necessitats\u201d, aconsella l’experta.<\/p>\n

Acostuma a ser f\u00e0cil de detectar per a les fam\u00edlies?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Fust\u00e9 assenyala que no sempre \u00e9s f\u00e0cil, i aix\u00f2 no vol dir que les fam\u00edlies no ho estiguin fent b\u00e9. \u201cEls infants i adolescents sovint comparteixen nom\u00e9s una part del que viuen, i \u00e9s normal que algunes coses ens passin per alt. A m\u00e9s, de vegades normalitzen conductes que no els fan b\u00e9\u201d, diu la psic\u00f2loga.<\/p>\n

Com hem d\u2019actuar vers l’altre infant i la seva fam\u00edlia?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

El focus principal ha de ser el benestar del nostre fill: entendre qu\u00e8 necessita i com l\u2019afecten aquestes relacions. \u201cPel que fa a la fam\u00edlia de l\u2019altre infant, \u00e9s recomanable actuar amb respecte i prud\u00e8ncia, evitant conflictes directes i prioritzant estrat\u00e8gies que ajudin el nostre fill a prendre consci\u00e8ncia de la situaci\u00f3 i a trobar alternatives m\u00e9s saludables\u201d, explica.<\/p>\n

Si aquesta amistat t\u00f2xica ha sigut sostinguda en el temps, pot tenir conseq\u00fc\u00e8ncies?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

\u201cQuan durant molt de temps un infant o adolescent es troba en una relaci\u00f3 que el limita, que el fa sentir menys o que afecta la seva seguretat, pot repercutir en la seva autoestima i en la manera com construeix les relacions futures, per\u00f2 tamb\u00e9 \u00e9s important recordar que, amb el suport adequat, aquests efectes es poden revertir\u201d, alerta. Acompanyar-los a posar paraules al que han viscut, ajudar-los a recuperar la confian\u00e7a i facilitar-los noves experi\u00e8ncies positives els pot donar eines molt valuoses per al seu futur\u201d, conclou Margot Fust\u00e9.<\/p>\n

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Aquest tipus d’amistat pot repercutir en l’autoestima i en la manera com es construeixen relacions futures. Les amistats tenen un paper fonamental en el creixement dels infants i adolescents. Aprenen a relacionar-se, a construir-se la identitat i a sentir-se part d\u2019un grup. Per\u00f2 no totes les relacions s\u00f3n sempre positives. 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